Women


When I first heard this song on radio a few ago, I simply knew that I had to post it.

Beyonce – If I Were A Boy

If I were a boy
Even just for a day
I’d roll outta bed in the morning
And throw on what I wanted then go
Drink beer with the guys
And chase after girls
I’d kick it with who I wanted
And I’d never get confronted for it
Cause they’d stick up for me.

[Chorus]
If I were a boy
I think I could understand
How it feels to love a girl
I swear I’d be a better man.
I’d listen to her
Cause I know how it hurts
When you lose the one you wanted
Cause he’s taken you for granted
And everything you had got destroyed

If I were a boy
I would turn off my phone
Tell everyone it’s broken
So they’d think that I was sleeping alone
I’d put myself first
And make the rules as I go
Cause I know that she’d be faithful
Waiting for me to come home (to come home)

It’s a little too late for you to come back
Say its just a mistake
Think I’d forgive you like that
If you thought I would wait for you
You thought wrong

[Male] You know when you act like that
I don’t think you realize how it makes me look
or feel
[Beyonce] Act like what
Why are you so jealous
It’s not like i’m sleeping with the guy
[Male] What
[Beyonce] What
[Male] I said yo
Why are you so jealous
It aint like I’m sleepin with the girl

But you’re just a boy
You don’t understand
Yeah you don’t understand
How it feels to love a girl someday
You wish you were a better man
You don’t listen to her
You don’t care how it hurts
Until you lose the one you wanted
Cause you’ve taken her for granted
And everything you have got destroyed
But you’re just a boy

Ok, I know that the song doesn’t really talk about the girl honestly wanting to be a boy herself. It’s more like lamenting about men, which is *sigh* as usual, hey what’s new, not understanding us women, and saying how she would do much better if she was to be in his shoes. I am not going to discuss this because let’s face it ladies, this is the way it was, still is and will always be!  

But would you want to be one of the opposite sex if you could have the chance? If you could do it without the pain of a sex change, or the possible subsequent ostracization or discrimination by others, would you want it? I have girlfriends who would have preferred to born as boys because they feel that men have easier lives than the fairer sex. Me? I seldom feel this way. Maybe except when I suffer dreadful menstrual cramps. That’s when I will wish that I was a man instead because the chances of a man having the experience and knowing how the painful cramps feel are as high as Bush being elected as the next President of the United States.

The thought of being born with a different set of sex chromosomes as what I currently possess seldom strikes me because firstly, it is a pretty useless thought. Even if you think about it day and night, 24 hours a day, you may grow a moustache but you will never become a man. Even if you do splash all your money on a sex change, let me inform you first from a professional aspect that your newly constructed dick will never ever work in the same way as a natural one will, so please save your money and donate it to my funds for a Kate Spade instead. It will be far more useful. Secondly, I believe that men and women are equal, and if they are, then there is no advantage of any one over the other which explains no need to choose one over the other. This is possibly different from a regular feminist’s point of view where they fight for equal rights for women as I think that we, both sons of Adam and daughters of Eve, if you are religious (well, I ain’t but the phrasing sounds cool), are equal from Day Uno.

Sure, we are as different as we can be from a biological point of view. Socially, we are not any closer than the sky and the earth. Yet I believe that should you minus away all the differences, all beings from Mars and Venus pretty much stand on the same level. It’s just that men and women suffer different forms of injustice in life. For men, there is a lot of stereotyping. Men are supposed to go out and work their asses off to support their families. Men are not supposed to cry. Men are supposed to be strong and tough. Men are not supposed to wear pink and look or behave feminine. Men are supposed to do this and that, and not supposed to do that and this. Women on the other hand face more discrimination. Women cannot do this and that. Even though they may be capable of it, they can be denied of the chance right at the beginning because men do not think that the women can accomplish it.

I am no expert on gender studies, so I am most incapable of explaining further or giving more valid examples. I will admit this, but  that does not mean that my idea is totally absurd. I still believe that I am right in some ways. While many say that it is difficult to be a woman, I do not think that life is any easier for our fellow male Earthlings. Hence I do not desire to be a man. Besides, there can be many advantages to being a girl. Sometimes it is so much easier to get your way out of trouble or get something into your hands just because you are a girl. Furthermore, because some people generally do not expect more from a girl, your outstanding performance will be more likely to shine through and be noticed. It may be neglected on the biased grounds of you carrying tits instead of a dick by some old foggy idiots, but it’s alright because you know that it’s not because you are incapable.

In fact, I wonder whether it is the more difficult circumstances which make women stronger and more powerful, and the comfortable environment of the past traditional patriarchal system in the society is weakening the men on the other hand. I would not doubt this possibility haha. Sounds like Darwinian evolution to me. Although being a man himself, Charles might not have nodded his head in agreement at my proposed hypothesis.

If I could be a man for a day, I wonder what I would do. Visit the Gents? Peep at the men peeing? Listen to what guys really talk about in the loo? Because you know us girls gossip and talk about anything in the washroom. Venture into the men’s changing room at the gym and see what’s going on in there? Party at a local gay bar or club? Or party at the usual straight club and try loads of cheesy pick-up lines at the pretty girls there all night? That last part might actually be really interesting.

Would you want to be a girl or a boy? What would you have done if you could be one of the opposite sex for a day? Have you ever given any thought to this?

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According to Google Search, it means “admonition: cautionary advice about something imminent”.

When Kenny Sia gives you a prior warning that said “Warning: This entry contains nudity. Do not read at work.“, one better listens to his advice.

Or suffer the shock I just had. -_- Yes, I read it during work with my colleagues working at their desktops all around me.

Head over to read his latest entry on the sleazy go-go bars of Bangkok and brace yourself (it’s best to sit down, or get your inhaler ready if you’ve asthma) for the photo at the end of the entry.

Honestly, I didn’t like what he has done, no matter what his original intention has been (maybe for fun or to increase the visitor count). Regardless whether the Thai is a real woman or a transexual, to me, this act of his seems to belittle the female. In fact, the more I think about it, the more insulting it seems. Whether or not that breast he held in his hand is authentic, it still represents a female anatomical part that distinguishes the 2 sexes. Just because he could afford to pay the person, that doesn’t mean that he should do it. What was he thinking of? It doesn’t seem to show much respect to women.  

If he just wanted to be entertaining or increased viewership, I think he pretty much got his aim. If he wanted to be funny, sorry, it wasn’t funny at all.

I’m in a foul mood today. At least when I’m in office today. Generally once I’m at home, I’m at peace with myself and the world haha. It’s true that I rarely feel any negativity at home and I think that’s the way it should be. Any problem or worry that we’ve from work or school or life in general, we should leave all these outside the door before we step into our homes. It’s unfair that we take our frustrations out on a loving family member, in particular, our mums who love us too much to be angry at us. That’s based on an assumption that your family isn’t the root of your troubles in the first place.  

Anyway when my mood worsens all of a sudden for no apparent reason, there’s only one simple reason. A quick calculation of dates always proves that I’m right – my damn period must be approaching! Everytime this time of each month, I can’t help but feel how unfair it is for the ladies to go through this every month (ok, some girls only need to experience it once every few months, but that can actually pose a medical issue, so there’s nothing much to be envious of) and not the guys. The hassle, the cramps and the mood swings! Urgh! It’s TOO MUCH! It’s UNFAIR!

That’s why we take it out on the guys once every month. We give it a nice medical term called PMSPreMenstrual Syndrome to justify the unpredictable snapping, fuss-making and tantrum-throwing, but in reality, it’s just plain revenge. So you guys should be grateful of this biological difference, count your blessings and just suffer in silence.

Ok, that’s just my hormones screaming. I’m usually not like this. That’s why hormones are scary.  

But as if my day is meant to be worse, guess who I bumped into once I entered the office? My ever-naggy co-boss whom I can hardly find when I need him to sign some urgent documents but keep bumping into when I want to avoid the nagging. He’s generally nice but he’s seriously a nag. Yes, it’s a “he”. My boss who is a “she” doesn’t nag at all. This world has really changed, man. The man is cooking in the kitchen and changing the diapers for the baby while the woman keeps an eye on the stock market on her computer. The woman makes her point straight-forward and clear while the man nags incessantly. When’s the man going to have periods and babies while the woman just sows her seeds?

Oh yes, back to my naggy co-boss. He just keeps on harping on the same issue! An issue which is not my fault and definitely not my problem too since I don’t intend to stay on this job beyond my contract. Ok, that’s my spitefulness muffling my sense of responsibility. I’ll do my work well even if I’m really leaving halfway throughout this project so that the person taking over has an easier job. But I do detest nagging! My mum doesn’t nag for goodness sake, so nagging is something that I can never get used to. Somemore, I am already working on the issue now and the results will be out soon. I’ve been giving him the same answer for months and he’s still asking the same bloody thing. Fed-up, man! I’m fed-up with men. Really.

And he’s actually wearing a tie today. Must be having some meeting or presentation later, but darn, all I could do when he was nagging at me was to stare at that tie and think how fugly it is haha. It’s sky blue which is my least favourite colour (I’ve practically nothing in blue haha. Believe it or not, you’ll never catch me in a blue top. Oh, except for my jeans of course haha) and has some pattern on it which has nothing artsy about it at all. The crucial thing is that it doesn’t match his shirt and I don’t like things that don’t match (that’s probably the only Virgoan trait in me) haha.

Anyway his tie flipped somehow and I saw the logo behind it. Damn, it’s Salvatore Ferragamo! Not surprised that he’s wearing branded stuff since he’s the boss afterall, a person well-respected in his field, definitely climbing the social and corporate ladders smoothly and making big bucks too. I’m just irated how such a gorgeous label is wasted. -_- I can definitely do better with that money on a pair of Salvatore Ferragamo shoes! *muacks muacks the shoes

Oh, glorious Salvatore Ferragamo!

(adapted from AskMen.com) 

Yes, women are UNPREDICTABLE. I should know.

Every woman has her own level of unpredictability. Especially in terms of mood. She can be sweet this moment and morphs into a raging lunatic less than fraction of a second later. It might be easier to strike 4D than to predict a woman’s mood at a particular instant accurately.

We call this mood swings. While most men swing between 2 states of mood – dejected (favourite soccer team lost / girlfriend doesn’t want to have sex with him / hungry etc) and happy (the opposite of everything that can make him dejected), and may I say that the swing frequency is no way as high, women can swing through a spectrum of moods more than the colours in a rainbow, like Tarzan swinging from tree to tree while high on coacine.

And you can’t always blame it on PMS, though you SHOULD expect mood swings during that particular period every month. Almost every single other thing in life can cause sudden mental shifts in a woman, other than just hormones. Ever try having a bad hair day? But if you are a man, then you most likely don’t understand. It can also be missing the shuttle bus, tripping on the steps, missing a possesion, chipping a nail – to big matters like a bad day at work, a fight with a friend or family discord.

Men won’t understand women not because men are from Mars and women are from Venus. It’s because I don’t fully understand women too. But I’m sure most men can recognise the complications of mood swings and the terrible consequences of inappropriate handling. It’s like a landmine – if you don’t know it’s there, you are going to step on it and get exploded to pieces.

Here’s some states of mood a woman can be in and what a guy should do (most of the time anyway). No guarantee it’ll work for every case though, as I’ve said: women are UNPREDICTABLE!!!

 

Mood: Distant

Meaning that she seems cold, treats you like you are almost not there, gives only nods or short answers to your questions or even completely ignores you, doesn’t laugh at your stupid jokes.

If she doesn’t do that to you all the time, then no, she’s not thinking of breaking up with you.

She might just be tired, not feeling her best, or she might have a problem that she’s not ready to talk about as yet. When you find yourself faced with a girl that doesn’t want to talk, quieten down too. Make only sensitve and tactful remarks, and talk only when necessary. And yes, I think it’s better to try not to say anything that’s supposed to be funny cause I doubt she’ll find it funny. Try to send her home earlier so that she can rest. You need to give her a little breathing room to pull herself together before you start digging into what’s going on. If you push her to talk before she is ready, not only will you not get the facts, you’ll most likely wind up with a resentful and defensive woman on your hands.

In fact, if you are nice enough to her, chances are that she’ll feel guilty for treating you like that once she feels better.

Mood: Depressed

A depressed woman is probably going to be in need of comfort and encouragement rather than space and time alone (both of which might make her mood even worse). Hugs work the best. And yes, gifts. Surprises. Chocolates. Flowers. Anything that rocks your woman’s boat. Just let her know that she is cared for and appreciated.

If her bad mood lasts longer than expected, try setting up a date night reminiscent of happier times, like a return to a favorite restaurant or a memorable destination. A surprise like this delivered unexpectedly can do wonders to lighten her mood and let her know that you are going to stick it out and help her through a rough time rather than bail when she isn’t at her bubbly best.

Mood: Angry

There are two types of anger for a woman:

  1. Provoked anger – because of something you’ve said or done. If you’re the cause, then well, just apologise! And either mean it, or at least sound/look like you do. Because if it’s just a relunctant “sorry”, she’s going to pick that up and you can up one more grade to her storm. If you don’t want to apologise, then well, put on your armour and prepare to go into war.
  2. If the anger seems unjustifiable to you, well, what for apologise? Instead, probe cautiously, and may I emphasize “cautiously”, to find out the actual source of the problem. Don’t make sweeping judgments like “I’m sure if he doesn’t mean it” and never make any slightest suggestion that she’s petty / childish. Unless you wish to end up with (1).

If she can’t have a proper conversation without talking at the top of her voice or screaming / shouting, don’t talk, back off (in other words, RETREAT!) and refer back to the entry on being distant.